I hate doing housework, but would NEVER NOT tidy and clean before having guests over. Because a dirty house (and bathroom 😳) and leaving dirty dishes (and vibrators 😂) hanging around makes me not want to eat anything you’ve made. Call me a squeamish snob when it comes to filth and food. 😂
That don’t-clean-your-house trend is thought provoking. I’m not down with it. But then again, maybe the needs I make when other people aren’t around is next level!
I could go on (and ON!) about how we’re currently living through a celebration of slovenly acceptance, but my mother told me if I have nothing nice to say, whisper it in her ear 😂
I’m with you about tidying up before guests arrive. I know how I feel in an untidy house when visiting and I wouldn’t feel right doing that to someone else. The photo of the woman holding up the couch while vacuuming made me laugh.
Maybe it’s the Southern in me, but I really don’t get this. I wrote a post a few months ago about this and told the story of a friend (still a friend!) who invited me for lunch and then served soggy leftover takeout, and what a disconnect there was between our expectations of hospitality. Her home was dirty too. (And she has plenty of money and a weekly cleaner.) Then I heard from sensitive millennials in the comments and PMs that her time was the gift and I should be grateful and anything else was classist/rude/old fashioned/whatever. When someone shows up unexpectedly and I invite them to stay, they get what they get. I might be in the midst of a messy garden project. But I’d apologize for the mess. And I’ll still at least have a roll of cookies in the freezer to slice and bake because that’s Bare Minimum Standards. If preparing your house is too overwhelming, I’m happy to meet elsewhere. But don’t show me dirt and call it a dinner party.
Bare Minimum Standard, I’m going to use that, Cecilia. Henceforth - BMS. And I couldn’t agree more! I’ve been preparing for a bathroom reno, and while my WC is *clean* it clearly needs a face lift; I go so far as to let new visitors know in advance, and joke about how any comments equal automatic expulsion from the party, but I want guests to know it’s not currently meeting my BMS.
I hate doing housework, but would NEVER NOT tidy and clean before having guests over. Because a dirty house (and bathroom 😳) and leaving dirty dishes (and vibrators 😂) hanging around makes me not want to eat anything you’ve made. Call me a squeamish snob when it comes to filth and food. 😂
Oh, Jolene. You know my love language is a spic & span bathroom.
And FULLY agree about food and filth: if I’m questioning drinking out of your glasses, I’m not coming back.
Totally agree!
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That don’t-clean-your-house trend is thought provoking. I’m not down with it. But then again, maybe the needs I make when other people aren’t around is next level!
I could go on (and ON!) about how we’re currently living through a celebration of slovenly acceptance, but my mother told me if I have nothing nice to say, whisper it in her ear 😂
Whisper it in my ear too!! I’m here for it!!! 😂
Haha!!! And this is why we’re friends.
I’m with you about tidying up before guests arrive. I know how I feel in an untidy house when visiting and I wouldn’t feel right doing that to someone else. The photo of the woman holding up the couch while vacuuming made me laugh.
100%Tracy. I think tidying up just shows respect for your guests - and you.
Maybe it’s the Southern in me, but I really don’t get this. I wrote a post a few months ago about this and told the story of a friend (still a friend!) who invited me for lunch and then served soggy leftover takeout, and what a disconnect there was between our expectations of hospitality. Her home was dirty too. (And she has plenty of money and a weekly cleaner.) Then I heard from sensitive millennials in the comments and PMs that her time was the gift and I should be grateful and anything else was classist/rude/old fashioned/whatever. When someone shows up unexpectedly and I invite them to stay, they get what they get. I might be in the midst of a messy garden project. But I’d apologize for the mess. And I’ll still at least have a roll of cookies in the freezer to slice and bake because that’s Bare Minimum Standards. If preparing your house is too overwhelming, I’m happy to meet elsewhere. But don’t show me dirt and call it a dinner party.
Bare Minimum Standard, I’m going to use that, Cecilia. Henceforth - BMS. And I couldn’t agree more! I’ve been preparing for a bathroom reno, and while my WC is *clean* it clearly needs a face lift; I go so far as to let new visitors know in advance, and joke about how any comments equal automatic expulsion from the party, but I want guests to know it’s not currently meeting my BMS.